Step 4 Questions Mostly about Adolescence

•	Did you have any homosexual experiences in your adolescence? If so, how did you feel about them?

•	Did you have any homosexual desires in your adolescence? If so, how did you feel about them?

•	What were your taught about sex by your parents or other authority figures?

•	What did you find out about sex on your own or from your peers?

•	If you are a female, were you ever taught that men are only interested in sex? If so, how has that affected you and your behaviors?

•	If you are a male, were you ever taught that your sexual performance and ‘conquests’ define your masculinity? If so, how has this affected you and your behaviors?

•	Did you have friends? What kind of a friend were you?

•	What interest or lack of interest did you have in school?

•	How was your social life? Did you participate in sports? What were the reasons why you chose to participate or not? How did you feel about sports?

•	Were you a trouble maker? If so, in what way? Did you ever destroy property?

•	Did you resent leaders in your school, home or community?

•	Did you resent not being the most handsome or beautiful person at school?

•	Did you feel that you were a coward because you did not want to fight?

•	Did you like to pick fights? Were you a bully?

•	Did you feel embarrassed because others made fun of you or avoided you?

•	Were you exposed to other children in gym class or the restrooms who were older than you or more developed physically?

•	Did you ever feel inadequate or inferior because you were later to physically develop than others? If so, write about your feelings.

•	Did you resent not being a part of the crowd? Or not being a leader? Or not being "in"?

•	Were you shy or outgoing? How are you now?

•	Does any person or type of person make you feel shy now?

•	If you dropped out of school, explain your feelings and reasons.

•	Did anything happen to you in high school that was a continuing source of shame?

•	Did you parents compare you to other family members or friends? Did you resent them for wanting you to be like someone else?

•	How did you get the attention of your family (e.g., pout, sulk, be a good child, have temper tantrums, act like a goofball or a dummy)?

•	Did you lie? If so, do you recall what kind of lies that you told? How did you feel when you got caught lying?

•	What was the most embarrassing moment of your adolescence?

•	Were there other embarrassing moments in adolescence that you really remember?

•	Were you jealous or envious of others?

•	What was the attitude in your family about sex? How did you respond to these attitudes?

•	Do you see any of the attitudes towards sex from your family forming your life now? If so, in what way?

•	When was your first experience of sexual intercourse? What were your feelings and be as explicit as you can about your feelings.

•	List in detail any early sexual experiences, including masturbation fantasies or activities with others of the same gender. Especially chronicle your FEELINGS about these experiences.

•	Did anyone ever get pregnant (yourself or your partner) from early sexual experiences? If so, what feelings did you have and what actions did you take?

•	Were you ashamed of your parents? Were they too old, too sloppy, too drunk, too high, too whatever?

•	Did you have the kinds of clothes that other kids wore?

•	Was there enough money for the things that you needed? If not, did you feel resentful of that? If there was did you take it for granted?

•	Did it seem like other brothers or sisters got more than you did?

•	Write out your feelings about money as an adolescent.

•	Were you the kind of child that you would like to have?

•	Were you a thief?

•	Were you ever double promoted in school? If so, did you ever have trouble catching up emotionally? How did you act? Did you feel uncomfortable?

•	Did you feel superior or inferior to other students?

•	Were you undependable as a friend? Did you break off friendships with little explanation if something or someone more desirable came along?

•	Did you pit one family member against another?

•	What was the best experience that you had in adolescence?

•	What was the best experience that you had in your entire life?

•	What was the worst experience that you had in adolescence?

•	What was the worst experience that you had in your entire life?

•	What did you feel particularly uncomfortable writing about from your adolescent experiences?

•	Is there anything from your adolescence that bugged you that you have not written about? If so, write about it and your feelings about it.